Welcome to the Courageous Living Show! I’m here to help you build courage and self-trust to live an amazing life. I aim to share with you what the meaning of courage is for me. And how I’ve learned through my own life where courage really comes from.
For Episode 01, I define what courage is for me and the three phases of courage. These are the foundations and concepts of the wisdom I share and the work that I do should you wish to work with me.
Allow me to give you a big picture of what it takes to build courage, as well as what it takes to sustain courage.
So let’s dive in!
What does courage mean? Courage, if you look it up in the dictionary or in Google is usually defined as doing something that you never thought that you can do. It’s what a lot of coaches would define as fear walking.
For me, Courage is the ability to jump off the diving board of life.
It’s that feeling that I get when I’m just about to do something that’s uncertain, that’s something that I’ve never done before.
Yes, sometimes it could be the feeling of doing something that I probably fear. But the truth is, the real motivation and drive behind courage is something much bigger.
You don’t become courageous because you’re trying to fight fear. You become courageous in life when you go for what your heart and soul desires. And then you align everything within yourself to achieve that.
You align all of your intelligences and all of your resources to go and have the life that you want.
I’m here not so much to help you tick off your bucket list. I’m really here to help you thrive in life by having the courage to go for what you really want, what you really desire.
Because you living within your desire makes for a fuller life and it makes for a joyful life.
So let me break down the process of courage…
Usually when you want to become courageous, it’s probably because you’re looking for a way to build your courage within to make a change to do something, or go for something that you haven’t done before.
There are 3 phases to courage.
The first is opening the gate of courage.
The second is building courage.
And the third phase is sustaining courage.
Opening the gate of courage is that starting point when you’re starting to think about what you want to do, what you want to achieve, what you want to go for.
And it’s not just about doing something, it’s not just about goals. It’s really about living your life based on how you want it.
There are four keys in opening the gate of courage that I found very very useful, which are: Awareness, Curiosity, Acceptance and Compassion.
When you’re just opening the gate of courage, you’re just trying to think about and feel into what you want to do.
Awareness always comes first. Awareness comes even before you open the gate, a few steps before you come into the gate of courage.
You feel an impulse that lets you know that you have to do something.
Awareness usually comes when you know there’s a change that’s come about within your life. It could be big, it could be small, it could be world events as well.
Or it could be that you find yourself ick and tired of where you are and you just really want something more. That’s awareness.
Change always starts with awareness.
If you don’t know something or if you’re not aware of something, you cannot change it.
The second key to courage is curiosity.
If you want to keep on opening the gate to courage you need to be curious. You need to cultivate curiosity within yourself.
Why do you want it? What’s pushing you to get there? What’s really behind it? You start to become curious of how life can be different for you.
The third key to courage is acceptance. It’s very important because when you have acceptance, you accept where you are right now. You make peace with where you are.
There’s so many people that I find or that I meet who think that they’re opening the gate of courage. But it’s really only because they want to get away from something. They don’t accept where they are right now. So they’re fleeing from whatever situation that they are in.
It’s more courageous if you’re able to make peace with where you are within your life, and then move forward from there.
When you’ve got acceptance, you’ve made peace. You’ve earned the wisdom your experiences in life are teaching you. And you can use that wisdom to move forward into go forward.
The fourth key to opening the gate of courage is compassion.
It’s really important for you to be compassionate to yourself. Compassion is going to be your best friend as soon as you open that gate. Once you open that gate, you start to build your courage to go for what you want in life.
You start to build courage when you’ve opened the gate and you start walking towards the diving board. You’re taking steps to go forward.
What does that mean? When you’re building your courage, that’s when you need motivation, that’s when you need inspiration, that’s when you cultivate your various intelligences.
Your various intelligences are your mental, emotional and physical capacities, where you cultivate your skills, and so forth in order to get to a place where you know within your heart, within your body, within your mind and within your energy that you’re meant to do that.
What happens is, as you keep cultivating your courage and building your courage, there comes a point in life where that’s it, you say to yourself “I’m going to go for it.” And you jump off the diving board of life.
You create that business. You look for the love of your life. You go on an adventure. You move to a different place all together. You write that book.
And then the next phase is sustaining courage.
So, you know, once you’ve taken that step you’ve actually taken that decision. And you went for it. You’ve paid for the course. You’ve built your business. You’ve made that commitment to someone.
During this phase, you also need tools and practices to sustain growth, to sustain that life.
Too many times you will find people who have gone for it and then, probably a month or two later, they say, “This is too hard, I can’t do this anymore. I’m not, I thought I was really I’m not really ready for it”.
What I’m here to do and what I’m here to be of service to is so that you can sustain that courage as well because that’s where life gets very very interesting and that’s where you take your life to amazing, or from amazing to the next level of amazing.
You go forward from there, and you start to thrive in life.
What does it take to sustain courage?
Self-love, Practices and Support
First, Self-Love. This is the foundation to thriving in life.
Having self love, and being able to give back to yourself what you always give to others, and only serving from a full cup.
Second, having practices around you, in order to stay courageous and in order to stay resilient in life. In order to remind you, why you’re living the way that you are living.
Third, having support around you. Having key relationships in life with people who support you, the ones who lift you up. They are very key to sustaining your courage because if you’re already living that amazing life, life can change and throw you lemons.
But you go back to your why, you go back to your practice, you go back to your values and the real reasons why you’re living your life.
And then that will will move you forward, no matter what. It will get you back to where you want to be.
You can’t go forward in life without courage, without jumping off the diving board first.
We need courage because we are asked to make decisions every day, and more so now. We’re being asked to make courageous decisions for ourselves. We’re being asked to live in accordance to our truth. We’re being asked to live in authenticity and to rise up from being unconscious and just mediocre.
One of the things that I realized when the pandemic hit was that I became really grateful for to where I’ve built my life and to where it is right now. I don’t have any regrets about the past. I don’t have any regrets about not having traveled or not having made the decisions that I did.
I’m very grateful that I’m in a really great space and I am surrounded by family who loves me. I’m surrounded by wonderful women who’ve been my support through this time.
And I’m grateful that I’ve had those experiences when I managed to travel, especially when I’ve traveled with my daughters because I don’t know when that’s going to happen again.
But, at the same time, I’m grateful to have the skills and the tools to take back control even if the world tells me that I can’t.
So I hope that all of that resonates with you and you can find and become aware of where you are in this courage journey.
Are you opening the gate of courage? Are you building your courage? Or are you sustaining your courage?
You are a whole that exists to live a life, not half a life.Kahlil Gibran